Expert networking tips for introverts from coach Jevonya Allen

But there’s nothing wrong with having an introverted personality — and it certainly doesn’t mean you’re less cut out for a successful career, Allen says. She cites Mark Zuckerberg, Bill Gates and Warren Buffett as examples, noting that introvert strengths often include quality listening, effective problem solving and the ability to avoid impulsive decisions.

While networking might not be your strong suit, Allen says it’s a skill you can pick up in a few small steps. Here are her seven top tips:

Small statements that reinforce positive thoughts about yourself can help you get rid of your negative thoughts over time, Allen says — whether you’re fighting harmful misconceptions about introverts or other personal insecurities.

One example: “I’m an introvert that doesn’t always like socializing, and that’s completely OK.”

Another: “I’m not perfect at networking, but I’m working on improving every day.”

Allen recommends writing down your affirmations in a journal, an index card or even somewhere on your phone. Read them as often as possible, especially when you’re having negative thoughts. The result, she says: You’ll start to carry yourself with more confidence, and that will only draw more people to you. 

As much as you might want to avoid attending networking events with large groups of people, they’re still a great way to make business connections, Allen says.

To ease your stress, ask a close work friend to come along so you can help each other navigate the event — or even approach strangers together if that’s more comfortable, Allen suggests. Try to schedule networking events when you’ll have enough energy to do something that doesn’t come naturally to you. Consider avoiding events right after work, when you might be too tired to put forth your best effort.

Allen also recommends creating specific goals to help you make the most of attending. That might mean staying at the venue for at least one hour or getting contact information from at least two people before the event ends.

After you make those new business connections, the next step is to schedule one-on-one meetings with them. Allen recommends meeting at least one networking connection weekly, for roughly 30 minutes each. Getting to know your new connections better will help you build a network that can help advance your career or business, she says.

Try preparing some questions in advance to make the conversation easier, Allen suggests. Focus on learning more about them, their line of work and what advice they may have for you. Be prepared to share information about yourself and your career goals. You’ll come away knowing whether you could work together or assist each other in some way, Allen says.

Always following up after connecting with someone at an event or one-on-one meeting can make you stand out, Allen says. It’s a simple step that can make others remember you in a positive light. 

Send an email, a text message or a handwritten note that thanks them for connecting with you, and either initiates another meetup or lets them know you’ll reach out again in the future. Make it a habit to send those follow-up messages within 24 to 48 hours of connecting, Allen says.

Social media can’t fully replace networking in person, but it’s a free and “low-energy” alternative that still allows you to make connections and promote your career and business, Allen says. 

Some platforms might be more useful than others: People in your industry may be most active on Twitter, while people from another industry might frequently post on LinkedIn. Once you choose a platform, Allen recommends regularly reaching out to potential new connections.

After you’ve connected with someone, send them a direct message thanking them for connecting with you and explaining why you wanted to connect, she says. Then, stay engaged: Regularly post about your ongoing projects or comment on other people’s posts.

Remembering people’s names and pronouncing them correctly is a simple way to make a great lasting impression on someone, Allen says. She acknowledges that it can be difficult, so she has a few strategies for what to do after someone introduces themselves to you.

Ask them how to correctly pronounce their name, and repeat it back to them to make it easier for your mind to remember. Find a few opportunities to use their name in your conversation with them, she adds: It can make you more personable while increasing your chances of remembering it.